friendship

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the universe (for God needed not to create). It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival. “ – CS Lewis

People will come and go, in and out of your life, for your whole life.  But there will always be those select few (other than your family, of course) that will be there forever; even if it’s a coming and going kind of forever.

Those are the ones that matter, and you can usually tell who they’re going to be almost right off the bat. They put their own needs aside for yours, not always, especially as you get closer! But, even when they’re letting you put their needs ahead of yours for once, they’re still thinking about you.

When you find people who will think of others ahead of themselves, hold onto them! There are so many selfish assholes (excuse the language if it bothers you) in this world!  DO NOT waste your time on them. 

People have told me almost my whole life that I am “nice to a fault”…and it’s true so much! I will let selfish people in my life and then just let them WAYY over stay their welcome.  I’m getting better about it, but DO NOT follow my example. These people have no place in your life. They will ALWAYS think about themselves before you and that’s not right.

Not that I’m saying every second of your life think about everyone else first! You need to think about yourself first sometimes…seriously! But when it comes to relationships of any kind, it is not supposed to revolve around one person and one person alone. If you let the right kind of people in your life they will think about you before themselves and you will think about them before yourself and there will be an equal amount of give and take.

Selfish assholes have no place in our lives; be nice, think about others, but don’t let people just walk all over you because you expect people to be as selfless are you are. 

Long story short, the people that matter are going to stick around. 

The people that matter and add value to your life are going to be the people who don’t let petty things disturb the relationship. They’re going to listen to you and care.  And you will listen to them and care.

Nothing is a task or a hassle or an obligation with these relationships.

It just works.

(and yes I’m talking about EVERY type of relationship: friends, dating, family…every significant relationship)

Okay and this is the song i was jammin' while writing this...it's awesome! enjoy :)